"Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up."

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Amri Kumi za Ndoa Imara



Miaka ya sasa imekuwa kawaida kusikia mahusiano na ndoa kuvunjika na tunapoona watu wanasherehekea kumbukumbu za miaka 20 au 40 ya ndoa ni jambo kubwa sana kwani ndoa nyingi za sasa huingia matatani baada ya muda mfupi sana tangu kuoana.

Kuna mambo mengi yanayochangia ndoa kuwa imara na yenye Furaha, Upendo na Amani. Pia kuwa na ndoa imara ni kazi inayohitaji kujitoa kila iitwapo leo.

Unaweza kufuata hizi Amri kumi za kuimarisha ndoa na mahusiano ili kuwa na wakati mzuri na mpenzi wako.


1. Love Comes First:Physical love is good, but there has to be genuine spiritual love also in your heart.
Your immediate neighbor is your own spouse.
So let charity begin at home and set an example by loving your spouse first and foremost.
Follow the scripture: "Love thy neighbor as thyself".
2. Narrow the Gulf:
Whether it is a love marriage, arranged marriage or forced marriage, differences are bound to arise.
Both of you come from different backgrounds, upbringings and environments.
You must be ready to overlook the sharp differences, lapses or shortcomings.
3. Forgive & Forget:
Remember, to forgive is divine, and keep doing it, even if you have to repeat this process for infinite times.
4. Begin the Day Cool:
Early in the morning, both spouses should try to remain calm and cool.
No discussions or arguments in the early morning hours.
5. Silence Can Save:
When you leave home for work in the morning, be at your best behavior.
If one of you is provoked or complains, silence is the best answer.
Conversely, you can say, "We will discuss it in the evening".
6. Inquire & Appreciate:
After you return home, enquire and take interest in one another's activity during the day:
"How was your day?" You must show your genuine appreciation and sympathy.
Top it with a pleasant smile.

7. Listen & Sympathize:
Do listen to your spouse attentively and sympathetically.
Never ignore.
Even at your place of work, if you get a telephone call from your partner, be polite and courteous, in spite of your busy schedule.

8. Don't Forget to Compliment:
Make use of
"Thank you", "Well done",
"You have done a good job",
and "I am sorry",
as frequently as is necessary.
Be generous in your praise and compliments.

9. Don't Compare:
Do not enter into comparisons.
No one is 100% perfect or 100% imperfect.
We all have flaws and shortcomings.
Always look at the good qualities of your spouse.

10. Keep Smiling:
Be cheerful and smile away your problems.
Give a smile as often as you can.
Only a human person is endowed with this blessing.
Animals do not have this rare faculty.
Did you know you use only 20 muscles for a smile but 70 muscles for a frown?
So, keep smiling!

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